Having expectations is not only accepted, it is often encouraged. “Expect the best” they say. But what happens when we “expect the best”?
When we have expectations that are unfulfilled it often leads to griping and moaning. Even more than complaints, expectations that are not met lead to disappointment.
The problem with expectations is that they are often not communicated. We like to think people who know us or love us will ‘just know’ but how would they? It may also be the case that your created expectations are unrealistic or too high.
If we shift our focus not on what they must do for us and tease out what are our needs are for a healthy relationship, we may be better able to communicate those needs. Also, accepting the notion that everyone is doing the best they can when they can instead of looking for ways to disappoint us can go a long way.
We often want more than we need. What we need is acceptance, love, an attempt at understanding and forgiveness when necessary.
How those needs are met by those we are in relationship with and not having expectations about how it is done is very helpful and will go a long way.
Have you ever wondered about the family part of a family owned business? Do you worry about your family because of the time you spend in your family business? This video segment describes how strong families build strong businesses.
Have you ever been disappointed by a family member but did not know why? Or have you been the one disappointing someone and confused as to why? This Slideshare presentation describe how that sometimes because as family, we believe that people know what we expect and acting under this assumption can lead to mixed expectations – later disappointment.
Have you ever lashed out at a family member quickly? Or have you been lashed out at before you felt that you had time to explain? This segment describes how often families grow apart in age and time but do not realize that. As a result, family members hold old assumptions instead of taking the responsibility to get know one another as they are today.
Do you want more information on how to practice self-disclosure? This tool is a model for how people see us as well as how we see ourselves (known to ourselves and not known).
Are you unsure of what it means to be a family owned business? Do you know of any other family owned businesses? This online quiz is a mix of family business fact and fiction to help you become more familiar with what family businesses are.
The following is an interview with President and Co-Founder of Urban Land Interests (ULI), Brad Binkowski. ULI is a 41 year old development and property management firm based in Madison, Wisconsin. The four-part interview explores Brad’s experince of bringing his son, Mark, into the business.