Emotional Intelligence is the way we recognize emotions in others and how we manage the emotions in ourselves. While EQ is a very important component in all of our relationships, it is a critical component of our relationships with our family. As we all know from being in a family, there are ‘triggers’ in our family that can lead to very positive reactions and memories as well as ‘triggers’ that can create miscommunication and damage in our relationships. It is particularly important, then, to be able to discern how we are experiencing these triggers and to keep them from driving poor decision making or choices we make inside of our families as well as inside our family businesses. You will find numerous resources on our site that will teach you more about EQ. If you would like to complete an EQ assessment to find out what your particular EQ strengths and challenges are, please let us know and we can make that happen. But for now, let’s learn a bit more about another critical element of EQ — self-regulation.
The opportunity for self-regulation occurs when we are able to understand and identify some of our emotions and as a result engage in dialogue with ourselves about how we want to proceed when these emotions arise. For example, just because we feel anger, does not mean that we need to allow the anger to take hold and cause us to behave angrily towards another.
For the purposes of this illustration let’s pick one response. I’m angry. I’m in my car and spent some time being self-aware and realize I am angry. My face is getting red, I feel hot, my heart is racing and it’s taking everything in me not to yell and make that not very nice hand gesture. At this moment, I have the choice to regulate my emotions or let them run away with me. I am about to take action and I, alone, am responsible for those actions. Just because someone swept me into their emotional tidal wave of carelessness doesn’t mean I have to become another title wave.
How can you begin to self-regulate? Common techniques include breathing deeply and from your diaphragm; counting to 10; sleeping on things that really trigger you before responding; making your emotional intelligence goals public so people can hold you accountable; speak to someone who is not emotionally invested in your problem; decide to learn a valuable lesson from everyone you encounter – even if it is just that you won’t cut anyone off in the future; or accept that change is just around the corner.
If you would like some more in-depth self-awareness techniques or details on the ways that the seven essential emotions can express themselves… we do have more information and resources on our site so feel free to check them out.
Have you heard of EQ or EI? Do you want to know how it can help you in your family, business and/or family owned business? This video describes what Emotional Intelligence is and the components that contribute to it.
Have you ever had a reaction to something someone does and label them something – jerk, nice guy, etc? Has this colored your perception of that person after? This Prezi presentation explains that there is difference between what happens, a behavior, and whoever is making that behavior. Demonstrating how observing vs. judging can and does contribute to a positive EQ.
Did you see our Introduction ot Emotional Intelligence segment? Do you want to have some tangible practices to improve your EQ today? This video isolates the first steps of EQ and behaviors to practice.
Did you watch our Judgment vs. Observation Prezi? Did you want some tips and tricks to notice neutrally (observe) instead of make judgments? This Slideshare presentation explains how we are able to reframe our experiences and wire our thoughts to see actions, as just that, an action and not a positive or negative.
Do you tend to avoid ‘negative’ emotions? Or do you tend to keep emotions at bay in work situations? This exercise is designed for you to see the benefits of all 7 essential emotions and why you may want to spend more time with your emotions.
Are you interested in beginning you EQ journey? This segment explains what self-awareness is and why we recommended it as the first step for improving your Emotional Intelligence.
This video explains how when you are aware you can begin to change your Emotional Intelligence responses.
Are you wondering how to continue to practice EQ Self Awareness and Self-Regulation? This segment reviews how we can create mechanisms to help us stay motivated on the Emotional Intelligence path.