Emotional Intelligence refers to the way we recognize emotions in others and how we manage the emotions in ourselves. It is a critical component of our relationships within our family. You will find numerous resources on our site that will teach you more about EQ. Let’s learn a bit more about the foundation of EQ and Motivation.
Emotional intelligence is learned. In fact, many times people think that we are fully formed in childhood. Recent breakthroughs in neuroscience has proved that not to be true. We now know that we can change our ‘brain patterns’ by our behavior (this is called neuroplasticity). What is the significance of this knowledge? For many decades we thought that our past thoughts about ourselves, which in great part forms the foundation of our emotional intelligence, was pretty much set and unchangeable. We now know that we can begin to ‘re-frame’ the way we look at ourselves, and our beliefs about ourselves and others — and change our behavior — which then changes the neuropathways in our brains, so that the new behaviors we practice can become permanent.
But we must be ‘motivated’ to change those habits by practicing different behaviors. The practice can involve meditation, journaling, time with nature, regular physical activity, good sleep practices and above all ‘different’ interactions with others … but it all starts with being motivated to make a commitment to increase our emotional intelligence.
Studies show there are four sources of motivation: (1) yourself, (2) your friends, colleagues, family – support network, (3) mentors or employers – authority, and (4) your environment. The most successful out of all of these sources of motivation is yourself. The question then becomes how do I motivate myself to want to become more emotionally intelligent?
The simple answer is that it will help you personally – to know what emotions you are having and to stay in touch with yourself. It will help you in interpersonal relationships because you are able to be aware and regulate your responses – also to hear people without having to take their emotional actions towards you to heart. And not least, in the work environment; you can have better relationships with colleagues, supervisors and those you supervise. You can start right away by putting a plan in place and letting people know about your intentions — this will create a support group to help keep you motivated. It may also be worth your while and time to complete our EQ Assessment in order to understand the strengths you have to work with as you continue to develop your EQ!
Have you heard of EQ or EI? Do you want to know how it can help you in your family, business and/or family owned business? This video describes what Emotional Intelligence is and the components that contribute to it.
Have you ever had a reaction to something someone does and label them something – jerk, nice guy, etc? Has this colored your perception of that person after? This Prezi presentation explains that there is difference between what happens, a behavior, and whoever is making that behavior. Demonstrating how observing vs. judging can and does contribute to a positive EQ.
Did you see our Introduction ot Emotional Intelligence segment? Do you want to have some tangible practices to improve your EQ today? This video isolates the first steps of EQ and behaviors to practice.
Did you watch our Judgment vs. Observation Prezi? Did you want some tips and tricks to notice neutrally (observe) instead of make judgments? This Slideshare presentation explains how we are able to reframe our experiences and wire our thoughts to see actions, as just that, an action and not a positive or negative.
Do you tend to avoid ‘negative’ emotions? Or do you tend to keep emotions at bay in work situations? This exercise is designed for you to see the benefits of all 7 essential emotions and why you may want to spend more time with your emotions.
Are you interested in beginning you EQ journey? This segment explains what self-awareness is and why we recommended it as the first step for improving your Emotional Intelligence.
This video explains how when you are aware you can begin to change your Emotional Intelligence responses.
Are you wondering how to continue to practice EQ Self Awareness and Self-Regulation? This segment reviews how we can create mechanisms to help us stay motivated on the Emotional Intelligence path.